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Tags: addiction, bible, emotional eating, Food, gluttony, Jesus, obese
This is number four in a five part series. Read the 3rd installment here
Brazilian churrascaria. Ethiopian doro wot. Cornish hens and rice. Coconut cake. Yes I love food. I love it in an unhealthy “get your name tattooed on my chest after only 2 weeks of dating” kind of way. It definitely is an Achilles heel and a major weakness. When things get tough I make a b line to the three things our bodies are hard wired for: fat, salt, and sugar. One night during a time of intense stress I ate a whole quart of ice cream. Enough said.
The reason why it is so easy for me to go to food for for an escape is that this addiction goes in the category of acceptable vices. I mean the church seems to condone it. When was the last time you heard a sermon on gluttony. I have never heard a sermon or even a casual mention from the pulpit and yet this vice of all the others is the most widespread. And when it’s time to do something together most churches get people together…to eat. See I’m not just talking about being obese. I believe obesity is just a symptom of our overall food addiction.To put it simply food has become a drug and not just fuel for survival.
There are many ways I am choosing to break free from the cycle. Eating more veggies and grains. Also when it comes to eating sweets and desserts I choose smaller portions. The best way to combat the addiction to food is by being aware. Aware of my emotions in the moment I want to scarf something down. Answering the question “Why am I eating?” is the most important thing to do in battling this addiction. While being hooked on sugar, salt, and fat it’s hard to distinguish true hunger from wanting to escape through my taste buds. So asking that question gives me a chance to pause and dig deep into my motives and discover what I am truly hungry for. And hunger deep in the soul is behind all addiction. Don’t you think?
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Sexual addiction is rampant in our society. Now when we think of a sex addict usually we think of someone having a late night rendezvous in their car or walking into a xxx shop in a trench coat and that’s where we go wrong. I believe that sometimes addictions have degrees and you don’t have to be totally gone off the deep end to have an addiction. If we have a better understanding of the way sex is understood by our brain then we can get a clear picture of a sex addict.
Many of us consciously or unconsciously see sex as a way to escape our problems. A way to lose the reality of our world and get lost in the ecstasy of orgasm. So when we feel empty inside and need a dose of self esteem then we turn to the arms of another. When we have financial worries or anxiety about our children we choose sex to soothe us and give us peace. When we don’t really know how to relate and be intimate (news flash: intimacy and sex are not the same thing) then we choose sex to avoid the pain of our inadequacy.
Let me say this: There is nothing wrong with sex. I enjoy sex as a way of expressing love to my wife but there are times when it is not so noble. There are times when it is not so much about her but about a way of escape. The reason I know this is because in her absence or when she is not available I choose others means of escaping my problems i.e. the other addictions of food, knowledge, social media etc. There is nothing wrong with sex but sex as addiction is not the best avenue to healthy human flourishing. Why? Because I believe love is the key to human flourishing (Luke 10:25-28) and when sex is an addiction the other person becomes a means to an end-a sex object-and when people are objectified love is thrown out the window.
What I do to work through this is to
Stop and pause. I ask myself the question “Why do I want sex right now?” For some that may be ludicrous. A hedonistic or materialistic viewpoint would say “You want sex because it gives you pleasure” or because “Your body needs it”. Those things may be true but they are not the whole truth. I believe a Jesus oriented understanding of the human person says that I am more than just my body.
Next I sit and evaluate my motives and the previous day’s happenings. A lot of times I will find that I am upset, stressed, or lonely and there is nothing wrong with finding a way to address those issues but usually sex doesn’t address them. It only covers them up.
Lastly I find a way to address the real issues .Whether that’s talking to my wife or getting some work done that I have procrastinated over or calling up a friend I try to come up with a real solution. This way I fix the problem instead of covering it up with sex. This isn’t fool proof but it has helped me get a handle on the most important organ of my sexuality-my heart.
Believe it or not in spite of what our sex saturated world tells us there is more to life than sex. Sex is only a part of it and I refuse to let it dominate me. I would rather let it lead me into and not away from love-the best way to be fully human and fully alive.
Tags: addiction, competence, education, fear, information overload, Jesus, pride
Addiction #1 Knowledge
One of my earliest memories and probably some of the earliest memories extended family have of me as a kid is of me opening up encyclopedias in my grandparents den while all the other kids are playing outside. While they were first hand experiencing the world around them I was on a pursuit to unlock the secrets of the universe. That has always been my natural bent. Although I would have to say it wasn’t that natural.
It was the result of a wound. When I was four my Mom and Dad separated (thank God and his grace that they came back together when I was ten). Because of the separation I felt extremely powerless. If I couldn’t stop this from happening then what else was I vulnerable to. How come I didn’t know how to stop it? So the quest for knowledge began. And it only got deeper when I encountered R rated movies, puberty, and wouldn’t you know it…Christianity.
The result was that I became addicted to collecting useless facts and avoiding testing them out in real life. I read about different things but wouldn’t do them. I would watch a movie about something that I was interested in but think of all the reasons why I couldn’t do it. Then later I would buy a book about the same thing-like that would get me to actually do something about it. My thinking went something like this: “If I learn more about it then I will be competent enough to do it.” The only problem is I was always in a deficit when it came to competence. Competence=self worth. This addiction led me to collect useless info and trivial knowledge in order to fill the emptiness I had inside because of my lack of taking action.
The remedy. Slowly but surely I began to experience life and whenever I felt like I needed to learn something instead of turning to a book I turned to a friend or mentor and got hands on experience. This was a direct result of discovering a profound truth: Just because I know facts about God doesn’t mean I know God. The apostle John refers to Jesus in 1 John 2:3 and says that “by this we know that we have come to know him, if we keep his commandments”. This same principle can be applied to just about everything else in life. Just because I know facts about something doesn’t mean I know it. So I still read books and surf the net but nowadays experiencing truth is more of a priority than collecting useless knowledge.